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Christmas Truce 1914

Monday, December 19th, 2011

My name is Francis Tolliver, I come from Liverpool.
Two years ago the war was waiting for me after school.
To Belgium and to Flanders, to Germany to here
I fought for King and country I love dear.
‘Twas Christmas in the trenches, where the frost so bitter hung,
The frozen fields of France were still, no Christmas song was sung
Our families back in England were toasting us that day
Their brave and glorious lads so far away.

JOHN McCUTCHEON.

 

By the end of November 1914 the crushing German advance that had swallowed the Low Countries and threatened France had been checked by the allies before it could reach Paris. The opposing armies stared at each other from a line of hastily built defensive trenches that began at the edge of the English Channel and continued to the border of Switzerland. Barbed wire and parapets defended the trenches and between them stretched a “No-Mans-Land” that in some areas was no more than 30 yards wide.

Life in the trenches was abominable. Continuous sniping, machinegun fire and artillery shelling took a deadly toll. The misery was heightened by the ravages of Mother Nature, including rain, snow and cold. Many of the trenches, especially those in the low-lying British sector to the west, were continually flooded, exposing the troops to frost bite and “trench foot.”

This treacherous monotony was briefly interrupted during an unofficial and spontaneous “Christmas Truce” that began on Christmas Eve. Both sides had received Christmas packages of food and presents. The clear skies that ended  the rain further lifted the spirits on both sides of no-mans-land.

The Germans seem to have made the first move. During the evening of December 24 they delivered a chocolate cake to the British line accompanied by a note that proposed a cease fire so that the Germans could have a concert. The British accepted the proposal and offered some tobacco as their present to the Germans. The good will soon spread along the 27-mile length of the British line. Enemy soldiers shouted to one another from the trenches, joined in singing songs and soon met one another in the middle of no-mans-land to talk, exchange gifts and in some areas to take part in impromptu soccer matches.

The high command on both sides took a dim view of the activities and orders were issued to stop the fraternizing with varying results. In some areas the truce ended Christmas Day in others the following day and in others it extended into January. One thing is for sure – it never happened again.

 “We and the Germans met in the middle of no-man’s-land.”

Frank Richards was a British soldier who experienced the “Christmas Truce”. We join his story on Christmas morning 1914:

“On Christmas morning we stuck up a board with ‘A Merry Christmas’ on it. The enemy had stuck up a similar one. Platoons would sometimes go out for twenty-four hours’ rest – it was a day at least out of the trench and relieved the monotony a bit – and my platoon had gone out in this way the night before, but a few of us stayed behind to see what would happen. Two of our men then threw their equipment off and jumped on the parapet with their hands above their heads. Two of the Germans done the same and commenced to walk up the river bank, our two men going to meet them. They met and shook hands and then
we all got out of the trench.

Buffalo Bill [the Company Commander] rushed into the trench and endeavoured to prevent it, but he was too late: the whole of the Company were now out, and so were the Germans. He had to accept the situation, so soon he and the other company officers climbed out too. We and the Germans met in the middle of no-man’s-land. Their officers was also now out. Our officers exchanged greetings with them. One of the German officers said that he wished he had a camera to take a snapshot, but they were not allowed to carry cameras. Neither
were our officers.

We mucked in all day with one another. They were Saxons and some of them could speak English. By the look of them their trenches were in as bad a state as our own. One of their men, speaking in English, mentioned that he had worked in Brighton for some years and that he was fed up to the neck with this damned war and would be glad when it was all over. We told him that he wasn’t the only one that was fed up with it. We did not allow them in our trench and they did not allow us in theirs.

The German Company-Commander asked Buffalo Bill if he would accept a couple of barrels of beer and assured him that they would not make his men drunk. They had plenty of it in the brewery. He accepted the offer with thanks and a couple of their men rolled the barrels over and we took them into our trench. The German officer sent one of his men back to the trench, who appeared shortly after carrying a tray with bottles and glasses on it. Officers of both sides clinked glasses and drunk one another’s health. Buffalo Bill had presented them with a plum pudding just before. The officers came to an understanding that the unofficial truce would end at midnight. At dusk we went
back to our respective trenches.

…The two barrels of beer were drunk, and the German officer was right: if it was possible for a man to have drunk the two barrels himself he would have bursted before he had got drunk. French beer was rotten stuff.

Just before midnight we all made it up not to commence firing before they did. At night there was always plenty of firing by both sides if there were no working parties or patrols out. Mr Richardson, a young officer who had just joined the Battalion and was now a platoon officer in my company wrote a poem during the night about the Briton and the Bosche meeting in no-man’s-land on Christmas Day, which he read out to us. A few days later it was published in The Times or Morning Post, I believe.

During the whole of Boxing Day [the day after Christmas] we never fired a shot, and they the same, each side seemed to be waiting for the other to set the ball a-rolling. One of their men shouted across in English and inquired how we had enjoyed the beer. We shouted back and told him it was very weak but that we were very grateful for it. We were conversing off and on during the whole of the day.

We were relieved that evening at dusk by a battalion of another brigade. We were mighty surprised as we had heard no whisper of any relief during the day.  We told the men who relieved us how we had spent the last couple of days with the enemy, and they told us that by what they had been told the whole of the British troops in the line, with one or two exceptions, had mucked in with the enemy. They had only been out of action themselves forty-eight hours after being twenty-eight days in the front-line trenches. They also told us that the French people had heard how we had spent Christmas Day and were saying all manner of nasty things about the British Army.”

 

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Walter Mittey is a Part of Each of Us

Wednesday, September 28th, 2011

James Thurber, in his short story called “The Secret Life of Walter Mittey”, describes the life of a middle aged man who is so bored and disappointed with his own life, that he immerses himself in daydream after daydream of heroic and cinematic proportions. Stuck in this ‘twighlightzone’ of never ending daydreams, Walter Mittey escapes the doldrums of his own life. His adventures include a navy commander, a world-renowned physician, a World War II flying ace and a defendant in a murder trial all while during a shopping trip to town with his overbearing and selfish wife. In all of his daydreams, Walter faces incredible odds for failure, but somehow manages to defy the odds and become the hero. The only problem is that Walter seems doomed to live his life in his outrageous and unachievable daydreams. What separates us (or at least most of us) from Walter Mittey is that the dreams that we have are often dreams of who we want to be, what we want to accomplish, and where we want to be that can be obtained in the real world.

Like most people, Walter Mittey has dreams of the type of person he wants to be, but has no means and no goals to get there. Without some goals in life as to what a person wants to be, they are certain to spin their wheels in endless circles. Take for example if a person wanted to be in politics. You certainly would not just announce your plans to run for the presidency on a whim. The decision to make a run for office would come after many years of planning, education and involvement in the community. A proven track record in the business or political world would be a must. Walter Mittey does not have any idea of how he can escape the life he is living because he has no plan or goals on what exactly he wants to be. He places himself in the shoes of the people of those he wishes he could be, such as the prominent well known physician who is so famous and recognized that his patients aren’t ordinary citizens, but “millionaire bankers!” Such fantastic daydreams give a hint that Walter views his life as a failure. Perhaps in his attempt to compensate for the regret he feels for his own boring and unfufilling life, his dreams make him feel useful, intelligent and successful.

It is evident from reading about Walter’s trip to town that he is a man that has enjoyed very few, if any, accomplishments in his life. While most people in their lives can look back and savor a time when the spotlight was shined on them, Walter seems to be lacking in past achievements as revealed by the people he dreams of being. When he is the navy commander, the crew refers to him as, “The Old Man’ll get us through”, and, “The Old Man ain’t afraid of Hell!” Is it perhaps that Walter has never taken charge of a situation that he daydreams? Or perhaps he is a coward that can not, or does not know how to stand up to his wife and tell her that he despises wearing overshoes. While daydreaming can be healthy for the soul and give us an escape from the everyday, Walter’s continuous delusions of grandeur could be seen has hindering his ability and his desire to produce any sort of accomplishments for both himself and with his relationship with his wife.

Walter’s wife is as much as an accomplice to Walter’s prolific daydreaming as Walter is to himself. His wife is very clear as to what shoes Walter should wear, how fast Walter should drive, how Walter is feeling and barks out instruction to Walter as if he is a child.

While most people would not continue with a relationship so one sided as the one between Walter and his wife, Walter continues to drudge along, happily living out his existence in his never-ending daydreams. Although at one point Walter does explain to his wife, “Does it ever occur to you that I am sometimes thinking?” His wife dismisses this and tells him that she is going to take his temperature when she gets him home. No matter what Walter might say, his wife really does not care because she has his agenda all worked out for him! This one sided relationship would certainly end in divorce for most people, however, with Walter’s passive mannerism, it’s doubtful he will ever escape the clutches of his wife.

The intensity and realism of Walter’s dreams would certainly have any doctor prescribing psychotherapy! Fading in between reality and dreams, Walter could be on his way to losing the ability of distinguishing what is real and what is dream. Walter is hopelessly unhappy with how feels for himself and for his life in general. At the center of this is a wife who seems to have lost confidence in her husband and therefore treats Walter more like a child than a husband. If only Walter’s wife would make him feel like he was important and makes a difference, if only Walter would stand up and communicate to his wife! Walter is yearning to be alive and to live life to it’s fullest. It seems that Walter and his wife have suffered a premature death of their relationship and in their outlook on life. When Walter’s wife states “You’re not a young man any longer”, this certainly makes Walter want to escape his current situation all the more. I think it was fitting for James Thurber to write about Walter’s last daydream of being before a firing squad, symbolizing Walter’s own death with real life. The “Secret Life of Walter Mittey” shows us what happens when you lose sight of the dreams you have and the hope of achieving those dreams – you forget what it is like to really live and to be part of the great adventure called life. As the author Grandma Moses once wrote, “And life is what we make it, always has been, always will be.”



Christmas Dinner by Charles Dickens

Tuesday, December 21st, 2010

When most people think of Charles Dickens, they think of his timeless and world changing tale called a “Christmas Carol”. There probably has not been a story written that had such an effect on humanity let along Christmas. But what is not well known is that Mr. Dickens had written other Christmas tales, some of them very good. So, we bring you one of those tales – a short story about Christmas Dinner, by Charles Dickens.

Christmas time! That man must be a misanthrope indeed, in whose breast something like a jovial feeling is not roused – in whose mind some pleasant associations are not awakened – by the recurrence of Christmas. There are people who will tell you that Christmas is not to them what it used to be; that each succeeding Christmas has found some cherished hope, or happy prospect, of the year before, dimmed or passed away; that the present only serves to remind them of reduced circumstances and straitened incomes – of the feasts they once bestowed on hollow friends, and of the cold looks that meet them now, in adversity and misfortune. Never heed such dismal reminiscences. There are few men who have lived long enough in the world, who cannot call up such thoughts any day in the year. Then do not select the merriest of the three hundred and sixty-five for your doleful recollections, but draw your chair nearer the blazing fire – fill the glass and send round the song – and if your room be smaller than it was a dozen years ago, or if your glass be filled with reeking punch, instead of sparkling wine, put a good face on the matter, and empty it off-hand, and fill another, and troll off the old ditty you used to sing, and thank God it’s no worse. Look on the merry faces of your children (if you have any) as they sit round the fire. One little seat may be empty; one slight form that gladdened the father’s heart, and roused the mother’s pride to look upon, may not be there. Dwell not upon the past; think not that one short year ago, the fair child now resolving into dust, sat before you, with the bloom of health upon its cheek, and the gaiety of infancy in its joyous eye. Reflect upon your present blessings – of which every man has many – not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some. Fill your glass again, with a merry face and contented heart. Our life on it, but your Christmas shall be merry, and your new year a happy one!

Who can be insensible to the outpourings of good feeling, and the honest interchange of affectionate attachment, which abound at this season of the year? A Christmas family-party! We know nothing in nature more delightful! There seems a magic in the very name of Christmas. Petty jealousies and discords are forgotten; social feelings are awakened, in bosoms to which they have long been strangers; father and son, or brother and sister, who have met and passed with averted gaze, or a look of cold recognition, for months before, proffer and return the cordial embrace, and bury their past animosities in their present happiness. Kindly hearts that have yearned towards each other, but have been withheld by false notions of pride and self-dignity, are again reunited, and all is kindness and benevolence! Would that Christmas lasted the whole year through (as it ought), and that the prejudices and passions which deform our better nature, were never called into action among those to whom they should ever be strangers!

The Christmas family-party that we mean, is not a mere assemblage of relations, got up at a week or two’s notice, originating this year, having no family precedent in the last, and not likely to be repeated in the next. No. It is an annual gathering of all the accessible members of the family, young or old, rich or poor; and all the children look forward to it, for two months beforehand, in a fever of anticipation. Formerly, it was held at grandpapa’s; but grandpapa getting old, and grandmamma getting old too, and rather infirm, they have given up house-keeping, and domesticated themselves with uncle George; so, the party always takes place at uncle George’s house, but grandmamma sends in most of the good things, and grandpapa always WILL toddle down, all the way to Newgate-market, to buy the turkey, which he engages a porter to bring home behind him in triumph, always insisting on the man’s being rewarded with a glass of spirits, over and above his hire, to drink ‘a merry Christmas and a happy new year’ to aunt George. As to grandmamma, she is very secret and mysterious for two or three days beforehand, but not sufficiently so, to prevent rumours getting afloat that she has purchased a beautiful new cap with pink ribbons for each of the servants, together with sundry books, and pen-knives, and pencil-cases, for the younger branches; to say nothing of divers secret additions to the order originally given by aunt George at the pastry-cook’s, such as another dozen of mince- pies for the dinner, and a large plum-cake for the children.

On Christmas-eve, grandmamma is always in excellent spirits, and after employing all the children, during the day, in stoning the plums, and all that, insists, regularly every year, on uncle George coming down into the kitchen, taking off his coat, and stirring the pudding for half an hour or so, which uncle George good-humouredly does, to the vociferous delight of the children and servants. The evening concludes with a glorious game of blind-man’s-buff, in an early stage of which grandpapa takes great care to be caught, in order that he may have an opportunity of displaying his dexterity.

On the following morning, the old couple, with as many of the children as the pew will hold, go to church in great state: leaving aunt George at home dusting decanters and filling casters, and uncle George carrying bottles into the dining-parlour, and calling for corkscrews, and getting into everybody’s way.

When the church-party return to lunch, grandpapa produces a small sprig of mistletoe from his pocket, and tempts the boys to kiss their little cousins under it – a proceeding which affords both the boys and the old gentleman unlimited satisfaction, but which rather outrages grandmamma’s ideas of decorum, until grandpapa says, that when he was just thirteen years and three months old, HE kissed grandmamma under a mistletoe too, on which the children clap their hands, and laugh very heartily, as do aunt George and uncle George; and grandmamma looks pleased, and says, with a benevolent smile, that grandpapa was an impudent young dog, on which the children laugh very heartily again, and grandpapa more heartily than any of them.

But all these diversions are nothing to the subsequent excitement when grandmamma in a high cap, and slate-coloured silk gown; and grandpapa with a beautifully plaited shirt-frill, and white neckerchief; seat themselves on one side of the drawing-room fire, with uncle George’s children and little cousins innumerable, seated in the front, waiting the arrival of the expected visitors. Suddenly a hackney-coach is heard to stop, and uncle George, who has been looking out of the window, exclaims ‘Here’s Jane!’ on which the children rush to the door, and helter-skelter down- stairs; and uncle Robert and aunt Jane, and the dear little baby, and the nurse, and the whole party, are ushered up-stairs amidst tumultuous shouts of ‘Oh, my!’ from the children, and frequently repeated warnings not to hurt baby from the nurse. And grandpapa takes the child, and grandmamma kisses her daughter, and the confusion of this first entry has scarcely subsided, when some other aunts and uncles with more cousins arrive, and the grown-up cousins flirt with each other, and so do the little cousins too, for that matter, and nothing is to be heard but a confused din of talking, laughing, and merriment.

A hesitating double knock at the street-door, heard during a momentary pause in the conversation, excites a general inquiry of ‘Who’s that?’ and two or three children, who have been standing at the window, announce in a low voice, that it’s ‘poor aunt Margaret.’ Upon which, aunt George leaves the room to welcome the new-comer; and grandmamma draws herself up, rather stiff and stately; for Margaret married a poor man without her consent, and poverty not being a sufficiently weighty punishment for her offence, has been discarded by her friends, and debarred the society of her dearest relatives. But Christmas has come round, and the unkind feelings that have struggled against better dispositions during the year, have melted away before its genial influence, like half-formed ice beneath the morning sun. It is not difficult in a moment of angry feeling for a parent to denounce a disobedient child; but, to banish her at a period of general good- will and hilarity, from the hearth, round which she has sat on so many anniversaries of the same day, expanding by slow degrees from infancy to girlhood, and then bursting, almost imperceptibly, into a woman, is widely different. The air of conscious rectitude, and cold forgiveness, which the old lady has assumed, sits ill upon her; and when the poor girl is led in by her sister, pale in looks and broken in hope – not from poverty, for that she could bear, but from the consciousness of undeserved neglect, and unmerited unkindness – it is easy to see how much of it is assumed. A momentary pause succeeds; the girl breaks suddenly from her sister and throws herself, sobbing, on her mother’s neck. The father steps hastily forward, and takes her husband’s hand. Friends crowd round to offer their hearty congratulations, and happiness and harmony again prevail.

As to the dinner, it’s perfectly delightful – nothing goes wrong, and everybody is in the very best of spirits, and disposed to please and be pleased. Grandpapa relates a circumstantial account of the purchase of the turkey, with a slight digression relative to the purchase of previous turkeys, on former Christmas-days, which grandmamma corroborates in the minutest particular. Uncle George tells stories, and carves poultry, and takes wine, and jokes with the children at the side-table, and winks at the cousins that are making love, or being made love to, and exhilarates everybody with his good humour and hospitality; and when, at last, a stout servant staggers in with a gigantic pudding, with a sprig of holly in the top, there is such a laughing, and shouting, and clapping of little chubby hands, and kicking up of fat dumpy legs, as can only be equalled by the applause with which the astonishing feat of pouring lighted brandy into mince-pies, is received by the younger visitors. Then the dessert! – and the wine! – and the fun! Such beautiful speeches, and SUCH songs, from aunt Margaret’s husband, who turns out to be such a nice man, and SO attentive to grandmamma! Even grandpapa not only sings his annual song with unprecedented vigour, but on being honoured with an unanimous ENCORE, according to annual custom, actually comes out with a new one which nobody but grandmamma ever heard before; and a young scapegrace of a cousin, who has been in some disgrace with the old people, for certain heinous sins of omission and commission – neglecting to call, and persisting in drinking Burton Ale – astonishes everybody into convulsions of laughter by volunteering the most extraordinary comic songs that ever were heard. And thus the evening passes, in a strain of rational good-will and cheerfulness, doing more to awaken the sympathies of every member of the party in behalf of his neighbour, and to perpetuate their good feeling during the ensuing year, than half the homilies that have ever been written, by half the Divines that have ever lived.

The Bear

Tuesday, December 21st, 2010

In William Faulkner’s, ‘The Bear’, a young boy begins his passage into adulthood by learning the qualities of courage, honor, pride and “what the heart holds to become truth.” Long before the boy begins his journey, he learns of the legendary bear through the stories from his father’s twice yearly hunting trips into the wilderness. It would seem that all of his young life, the boy was preparing for his journey to the wilderness and his encounter with the bear. Faulkner describes how “It ran in is knowledge” and “loomed and towered in his dreams before he even saw the unaxed woods where it left its crooked print.” The right of passage for the boy could not be explained through a fireside chat, but through the boy’s own experience in learning about his fears and ‘The Bear.’ For the character of the bear is not merely just a beast in the woods, but a personification of mans own fears in confronting the unknown and learning to coexist and gain respect for the wilderness that we are all from.

Long before the boy began his journey, his father, Major de Spain, General Compson, Sam Fathers and Tennie’s Jim all learned the lesson of the bear. These individuals, representing diverse backgrounds as the white plantation owner, the civil war veterans, the black and the Indian, all come together for the purpose of the hunt. Although they are not able to live together without racism in the towns where they live, their unity is apparent in the wilderness, were they are just men; living, hunting, breathing and drinking together as one people. For the bear had shown to them, as did their father’s father, the true meaning of what harmony means in the wilderness. Although the boy thinks he has fooled his father and friends into thinking he was hunting for squirrels, he is surprised when Sam Fathers tells the boy, “You ain’t looked right yet.” Evidently, Sam Fathers knows exactly what the boy is searching for. The boy thinks he is searching to hunt a bear, but he recognizes his own fear when he can not come close to, or even see the elusive bear. He decides that he “must see him” and he “must look at him.”

Sam Fathers reveals to the boy that in the wilderness, nothing will hurt you unless you corner it or fear it. He tells the boy that the bear, or wilderness, can smell when you are afraid. The problem is the gun, as Sam Father’s states. The gun represents mans own fears of the wilderness. If the boy wants a face to face encounter with the bear, he must drop his fears and not hide behind his gun. At this point in Faulkner’s story, it is clear that the character of the bear takes on proportions of more than just an animal. The bear, representing the wilderness itself, must not be feared by the boy if he is to be truly enlightened and learn the harmony and respect that the wilderness is made of. The bear is part of that wilderness and if the boy can not confront his fear of the bear, then he will forever view the wilderness as something that is to be feared, forgotten and left to the axeman to dismantle.

The encounter with the bear occurs only when the boy leaves behind the instruments of fear that man believes is needed to survive in the wilderness. The gun and “three lifeless mechanicals” are left behind. (a watch, compass, and stick) Believing that these instruments of man had made him the woodsman that he had strive to be, the boy forges on to meet his own fear in the presence of the bear. Alone in the wilderness, nine hours from camp, he uses the skills in his head and heart to try and find the bear. He returns to the spot where he had left behind the watch, compass and stick only to find a down log where he sits. The boy then sees the tremendous and legendary bear that he had been trying to confront all of his young years. Stripped of the fears of man, the boy discovers for himself that the bear does not fear him, but respects his presence. There is no unprovoked attack on the boy; rather, the bear quietly looks back at the boy. He does not make any sounds or hasty retreats. The bear shows to the boy that he will regard him with respect in the wilderness, so long as the boy respects the bear and does not bring the “lifeless mechanicals” into the bear’s domain. Without the fears of man inside of his heart and mind, the boy learns from the bear what no one could of taught him, that there is no fear in the wilderness, only in the hearts of man.

Faulkner uses the tale of ‘The Bear’ to bring into focus that there is “nothing to fear but fear itself.” It would seem that Faulkner’s tale is to invoke understanding as to what the bear or the wilderness really represents. Not a place to be feared and destroyed, but a place to be respected, to gain enlightenment from and to learn the attributes that each and every individual should learn; courage, honor, pity, justice, liberty and humility. As the boy learned, the lesson of the bear taught these men not to fear the wilderness and in doing so, not to fear each other, regardless of the color of their skin, the roots of their ancestors or the words that they spoke. The lesson of “The Bear” is about overcoming your own fears and in learning to coexist with the nature, people and animals that some men, have learned to fear.


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The Metamorphosis

Monday, January 18th, 2010

The ‘Metamorphosis’, by Franz Kafka, is an intriguing tale of a young man by the name of Gregor Samsa who awakes one morning to discover that he has been transformed into a beetle bug. Gregor’s family is horrified, not only because of his disgusting appearance, but because he is the sole provider for his father, mother and sister. Without Gregor’s salary to sustain his family needs and to pay off his father’s debt from a failed business, the family appears to be financially doomed. As the story progresses, Kafka takes great pain in describing the details of Gregor’s new life as a bug. His family, once dysfunctional and relying on Gregor to support all of their necessities, changes to compensate for their new way of life. The father and mother, prior to Gregor’s metamorphosis, live a sedentary and illness plagued life, spending most of their time in bed or on the couch. Gregor’s sister seems content with her everyday affairs of sleeping late and getting dressed, but does not seem to have any plans to have a future. By the end of Kafka’s story, it is apparent that not only did Gregor undergo a metamorphosis, but so did his family. The family, once totally dependent upon Gregor, becomes self-sufficient. When Gregor succumbs to death, as a result of the abusive treatment by his family, there is a great sense of relief felt by his father, mother and sister and which could be compared to the death of a terminal ill relative.

After Gregor’s metamorphosis, his family, once totally dependent upon Gregor for all of their financial needs, begins to undergo a metamorphosis of their own. While the family undergoes their own metamorphosis, they begin to see Gregor in a different light. They were all mortified at Gregor’s transformation to a bug, but they at least initially tolerated the fact that he was living under the same roof. The sister kept Gregor’s room clean and provided him with food and drink. His mother, while never able to handle looking at Gregor, helps her daughter rearrange Gregor’s room so he can better climb the walls. For a while, it seems that this could go on indefinitely, but when the family realizes that keeping Gregor was becoming more and more of a liability and disrupting their newly found life, they become agitated with his predicament and finally reject him. Even his sister, who at first seems to be Gregor’s only provider, wonders why Gregor just won’t leave. Finally, his room is reduced to a storage closet where all of the family’s undesirables are kept. Gregor dies alone, unwanted and a shell of what he once was.

After Gregor’s death, the family feels a great sense of relief. While you might think the family would mourn or regret the death of their son (or what use to be him) the father states, “now thanks be to God.” In fact, it is as if a great burden has been released from the Samsa’s lives. The father, mother and daughter, arm in arm, enter a new day. As Kafka describes, “a certain softness was perceptible in the fresh air.” On that day they decided to go on a trip to the countryside where they contemplate their futures and ponder the prospects of a husband for their daughter. While it is hard to imagine that they did not miss Gregor during his human life, they certainly were relieved that the responsibility of taking care of Gregor, the bug, was over.

The relief felt by the Samsa family can be compared to the relief felt by a family that has experienced the death of a relative, after caring for their terminal illness. Take for example my wife. When she was 17, she was given the job of caring for her terminal ill mother who was suffering from colon cancer. Although the doctor’s intentions were good, her mother ended up a quadriplegic after surgery to remove the cancer. My wife’s four older brothers, always the pride of her mothers, suddenly did not want to come by the house for a visit. My wife remembers a time when her mother, overweight prior to becoming a quadriplegic, fell out of bed and needed to be lifted back into bed by four police offers. My wife recalls another time when she was sick of fixing her mother’s pillows and told her to “fix her damn pillows herself!” By the time my wife’s mother passed away, her sole purpose was to take care of her mother, 24 hours a day with little or no help from the rest of her family. When death came, it was greeted with grief and despair, but with relief that my wife could resume with living her life. As I asked my wife about her experience, I noted similarities in Kafka’s ‘Metamorphosis.’ The most significant is my wife’s comments that her mother would look out the window often, such as Kafta describes about Gregor, “obviously in some recollection of the sense of freedom that looking out of a window always used to give him.”

The Metamorphosis is much more than just a story about a man that turns into a bug, it symbolizes the changes that occur in relationships when sickness inflicts a once healthy and vibrant individual of the family. Take for example Gregor prior to his Metamorphosis. He labors unselfishly for his family’s welfare and puts the needs of his family first. Although his family does love him, their experience of dealing with his ‘bug’ problem changes how they view and treat him. The same can be said of my wife’s mother. All of her life she helped people and sheltered kids in her home, but when illness struck, the relationships with her family changed similar to Gregors. The relief felt by Gregor’s family and my wife are similar because both were under a tremendous amount of pressure to provide care for the person who once cared for them. When death came, it was viewed as a new beginning. The Metamorphosis, above all, shows us how difficult a terminal illness is, not only for the person it effects, but also for the family and friends of the individual affected. Kafka’s story not only teaches us about death and the terminally ill, it should give us a greater appreciation for the people that have provided care or love to us. In other words, we should not take for granite the people that are most important to us. If we do, we might find ourselves in the shoes of Gregor’s family!

I’m Free

Sunday, January 13th, 2008

Arlington at Christmas

The photograph above is of Arlington National Cemetery at Christmas. There are over 300,000 U.S. Soldiers buried in Arlington. The following poem’s author is unknown. I stumbled across this poem many years ago and it has comforted many who have lost loved ones – I hope it will continue to comfort all those that find this page.

I’m Free

Don’t grieve for me, for now I’m free
I’m following the path God laid for me.
I took His hand when I heard him call
I turned my back and left it all.

I could not stay another day
To laugh, to love, to work or play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way.
I found that place at the close of day.

If my parting has left a void
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss.
Ah yes, these things, I too, will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My Life’s been full, I savored much.
Good friends, good times, a loved one’s
touch.

Perhaps my time seemed all too brief,
Don’t lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me
God wanted me now, He set me free.

The Meaning of Christmas

Monday, December 10th, 2007

 

Let’s not forget to remember the true meaning of Christmas. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in Christmas Chores that we forget what it is all about.  Author is unknown….

T’was the month before Christmas and all through the town
Not a sign of Baby Jesus was anywhere to be found.
The people were all busy with Christmas time chores
Like decorating, and baking, and shopping in stores.
No one sang “Away in a manager, no crib for a bed.”
Instead, they sang of Santa dressed up in bright red.

Mama watched Martha Stewart, Papa took a nap.
As hour upon hour the presents they’d wrap.
When, what from the T.V. did they suddenly hear?
“Cept an ad which told of big sale at Sears.
So away to the mall they all flew like a flash…
Buying things on credit…and others with cash!

And, as they made their way home from their trip to the mall,
Did they think about Jesus? Oh, no…not at all.
Their lives were so busy with their Christmas time things,
No time to remember Christ Jesus, the King.

There were presents to wrap and cookies to bake.
How could they stop and remember who died for their sake?
To pray to the Savior…they had no time to stop,
Because they needed more time to “Shop ’til they dropped!”

On Wal-mart! On K-mart! On Target! On Penney’s!
On Hallmark! On Zales! And a quick lunch at Denny’s
From the big stores downtown to the stores at the mall
They would dash away, dash away, and visit them all!

And up on the roof, there arose such a clatter
As grandpa hung up icicle lights with his brand new step ladder.
He hung lights that would flash. He hung lights that would twirl.
Yet, he never once prayed to Jesus…Light of the World.

Christ’s eyes… how they twinkle! Christ’s Spirit…how merry!
Christ’s love…how enormous! All our burdens He’ll carry!
So instead of being busy, overworked, and uptight
Let’s put Christ back in Christmas and enjoy some good nights!